Sometimes shouting in anger can be relieving, it lets you release a lot of clogged up emotions, one fit of rage and a lot of unused stuff gets flushed. But when you shout in anger, it also pains the other person and certainly affects the quality of your relationship. Adversely. So, it is not a viable option. Plus, since it is associated with the emotion of anger, it leaves you weaker, maybe even guilty afterwards. Imagine if you could shout without being angry. Sounds silly? Read on, your opinion may change by the time you get to the end of this post.
In the name of decency and etiquette, conditioned by religion, our society does not really allow free expression. As long as what you express fits in the their operating model, it is good. If you make diversions, it starts to distance itself from you. Should you make a radical move, it rejects you completely. Socrates had to drink poison, Christ was crucified, Aristotle managed to escape. We need not even go that far, you shout at your boss and you get the pink slip, you shout at the referee on the soccer ground and you get the red card. Any expression that does not meet their approval, society tries to kill it.
Physical activities whether they be sports, shopping, working out in the gym, even the act of making love, they all give you an outlet. A tiny window of opportunity to freely let go of yourself. You can shout at the top of your voice in a sports stadium or just when you are lifting heavy weight and so forth. Immediately thereafter you feel calm and relaxed like the landscape after a downpour, it looks green and fresh and new. All intellectual activities give you either an engagement or an outlet. There are people who write to corporations, governments with their opinions ranging from world-hunger to leaking washroom taps. They well know their letters may never be read but it provides them an outlet. And that is the key — an outlet! What if there was a way to flush out every undesirable emotion out of your system. Well, there are. Many. Some of you are like sealed but shaken up bottles of carbonated water. There is a storm inside but it is deceptively calm from the outside.
If you look at children, they can just shout and cry, offload their emotions and be happy again the next moment. The vital difference is they are not shouting at anyone, they are just shouting. They are not yet bound by the laws of the society. Considering them immature, people are willing to put up with their tantrums. An adult on the other hand throws mental tantrums, all in his mind. They cannot just shout, they need to “shout at”. Let me get to the crux of the matter now. Go find an isolated place where you can shout. Yes, shout. Without any inhibitions. A place where you can just go loud without worrying if anyone is hearing you. Really loud.
Shout till you feel all that is bottled up in you is released, years and years of emotions. Perhaps you had moments when you were wronged and you wanted to cry but you could not, when you lost a loved one but you could not express your loss, moments when you were scared but you had to put on a brave face, you were let down but you thought you were unaffected, you may have sacrificed your own ambitions, goals and preferences for the sake of your family and friends. There is a lot of dormant stuff, it is making you feel heavy, it is clogged up in you, release it. So, shout till tears start rolling down. You will feel light like never before.
Feel it. Just look within yourself, how much stuff are you carrying in you! Most of it is not by choice, you are just unaware how to get it out of your system. People are meditating, they are exercising, they are playing, they are trying, they want to feel light, they want to be happy, they want to experience peace. Ever seen the look on a toddler’s face when they are sleeping or smiling? They are good at emptying themselves. Empty yourself. Vent it before it bursts you. If you have a positive emotion — give it an outlet and it will grow; like one candle lighting others. You have a negative emotion? Give it an outlet and it will leave you lighter.
You are a consecrated entity, worship yourself, drop all that makes you feel unworthy of your own devotion. Do not keep it bottled up. Empty yourself.